Serie „Mein Leben“

Wenn eine Frau keine Kinder will: „Fehlt dir denn nichts?“

Lesedauer: 6 Minuten
Auf dem Spielplatz, nur ohne Kinder: Kerstin Wajs aus Hagen - hier mit Hündin Carlotta – hat sich gegen Nachwuchs entschieden.

Auf dem Spielplatz, nur ohne Kinder: Kerstin Wajs aus Hagen - hier mit Hündin Carlotta – hat sich gegen Nachwuchs entschieden.

Foto: Jakob Studnar / FUNKE Foto Services

Die Hagenerin Kerstin Wajs (51) hat entschieden, ohne Kinder alt zu werden. Warum sie keinen Nachwuchs will und wie Mitmenschen darauf reagieren.

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„Der Gedanke, Kinder in die Welt zu setzen, wurde für mich immer unvorstellbarer“

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„Oh, Gott, deine armen Eltern werden nie Oma und Opa sein“

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„Und die Rente willst du natürlich trotzdem haben“

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