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Trauma in Arnsberg: Wenn das Kind die Mutter nicht erkennt

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Margareta Smulskas glasige Augen haben unsagbare Dinge gesehen. In ihnen verborgen: Krieg, Leid und Tod hautnah.

Margareta Smulskas glasige Augen haben unsagbare Dinge gesehen. In ihnen verborgen: Krieg, Leid und Tod hautnah.

Foto: Thora Meißner

Arnsberg.  Die 15-jährige Violetta fiel einer russischen Bombe zum Opfer. Ihre Mutter Margareta Smulska lebt nun in Arnsberg und erzählt ihre Geschichte.

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Tod in Trümmern

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Via „Kleeblattkonzept“ nach Arnsberg

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„Jeden Tag muss ich ihr aufs Neue erklären, dass ich ihre Mutter bin“

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Alpträume in Arnsberg

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