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Kirche weniger gefragt: Trauerredner sprechen über den Tod

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Abschied ohne Gott und die Kirche: Beate Schwedler arbeitet als freie Trauerrednerin.

Abschied ohne Gott und die Kirche: Beate Schwedler arbeitet als freie Trauerrednerin.

Foto: Ralf Rottmann / FUNKE Foto Services

Ruhrgebiet.  In Zeiten von Kirchenaustritten haben Trauerredner Konjunktur. Aber wer spricht dann am Grab? In Dortmund lehrt ein Kurs das Abschiednehmen.

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„Wenn nicht mehr die Kirche, wer spricht dann über den Tod?“

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