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Familiencoach: Eltern sollen Gefühle der Kinder ernst nehmen

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Marlene Alshut arbeitet als Familiencoach.

Marlene Alshut arbeitet als Familiencoach.

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Eversberg.  Sie möchte mit ihrer Arbeit Familien helfen, den Alltag zu erhellen und die Lebensfreude wieder zu finden: Marlene Alshut ist Familiencoach.

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