Missbrauch

Missbrauch: Wie eine Meschederin vom Opfer zu Helferin wurde

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Vom Opfer zur Helferin: Tatjana Michael leitet heute mehrere Selbsthilfegruppen.

Vom Opfer zur Helferin: Tatjana Michael leitet heute mehrere Selbsthilfegruppen.

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Bockum/Arnsberg.  Tatjana Michael (44) wuchs in Meschede auf. Als Kind wurde sie über Jahre sexuell missbraucht. Heute hilft sie anderen Frauen.

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Warum hat das Kind niemand geschützt

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75 Prozent der Täter stammen aus der Familie oder dem nahen Umfeld

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