Rituale

Expertin verrät: Wie Rituale im Familienalltag helfen können

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Gemeinsam den Weihnachtsbaum aus dem Wald holen, Pfannkuchen am Sonntag, jeden Morgen ein Kakao ans Bett holen: Familien haben die unterschiedlichsten Rituale – vor allem in der Weihnachtszeit.

Gemeinsam den Weihnachtsbaum aus dem Wald holen, Pfannkuchen am Sonntag, jeden Morgen ein Kakao ans Bett holen: Familien haben die unterschiedlichsten Rituale – vor allem in der Weihnachtszeit.

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Duisburg/Lippstadt.  Die dunkle Jahreszeit ist die Hochzeit der Rituale. Warum die geliebten Gewohnheiten wichtig für Familien sind – und es trotzdem ohne geht.

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Weihnachten als Fest der Rituale

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Rituale geben Kindern Sicherheit und Struktur

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Rituale nicht aus Angst heraus praktizieren

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Je älter die Kinder desto weniger Rituale

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Duisburger Familie verzichtet auf Rituale

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„Es macht keinen Sinn, an Ritualen hängenzubleiben“

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