Trauerbegleiterin: Wie man mit Kindern über den Tod spricht
Andrea Leim

Trost in der tiefsten Trauer: Für viele Familien sei es wichtig, in derKrise jemanden an der Seite zu haben. Daher bildet das Lavia-Haus in Gelsenkirchen Familien-Trauerbegleiter aus. (Symbolbild)
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Gelsenkirchen. Die Eltern-Bloggerin Lisa Harmann hat sich in Gelsenkirchen zur Trauerbegleiterin ausbilden lassen. Wie sie Familien bei der Trauer hilft.
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Kölner Eltern-Bloggerin: Warum Kinder weinen sollten
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Trauerbegleiterin werden? „Das könnte ich nie!“
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>>> Lavia-Institut für Familientrauerbegleitung in Gelsenkirchen
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