Vater erschießt die Mutter: Wie eine Betroffene damit umgeht
Nach vielen Jahren der Therapie spricht die gebürtige Mülheimerin Donata A. erstmals öffentlich über ihre Erlebnisse. Sie möchte, dass Femizide beim Namen genannt und Frauen besser geschützt werden.
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Mülheim/Köln. Donata (35) sah als Siebenjährige mit an, wie ihr Vater ihre Mutter in einem Mülheimer Parkhaus erschoss. Wie sie das bis heute prägt.
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Vater erschoss Mutter in einem Mülheimer Parkhaus
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„Es war ein großes Wunder, dass wir überhaupt überlebt haben“
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„Freundin fand neue Liebe: Tragödie in der Tiefgarage“
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Mülheimerin verbringt Jahre im Schockzustand
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